There is a number of myths and beliefs regarding Muslim relationships and marriage that are constantly endorsed and spread among single daters via hearsay, and through printed sources based mostly on fantasy and fiction. With that being said, the experience of real life, though, tends to be abolishing most if not all of them.
Myth #1: Marriage is the outcome of romance and love
Fact: In Islam, it is essentially the other way around
In contrast, many prevalent arranged marriages appear to be so lackluster, forced and boring. In this way, we would rather incredulously wonder just how some people could commit and agree to spend the rest of their lives with those they did not even know well enough, and thus, did not “love”?
Only the love in Muslim romantic relationships is the true love. The true love – though it might be lacking the outwardly attractive but mostly fake ‘glamour’ of typical love fiction, is a real priceless blessing.
Myth #2: Romantic partners should always stick together
Fact: Time apart is proven to keep the spark alive
Many of us sometimes assume that if two people truly love each other, they’d probably want to be together, like, day and night. At the same time, the fact is that, if two people in love do not take breaks from one another’s company, pretty soon they will start irritating each other.
When each party regularly avails to spend short bursts of time somewhere else, the couple will be able to successfully maintain that absolutely positive relationship equilibrium keeping both the spark and chemistry in the relationship burning and alive.
Myth #3: Happy couples never fight
Fact: If romantic partners never fight, they don’t really care about each other
If we take a deeper look at any committed relationship, we will admit that constant friction and fall-outs intermittently happen in every loving relationship. It is literally impossible for any romantic partnership to be free of arguments and periods of time when both sides do not feel happy enough with each other, and hence become distant, still being in love.
Temporary time apart from one another allows mutual anger to dissipate and the partners to focus rationally upon their relationship, allowing the moment of patching up to be much sweeter and way more anticipated.
Myth #4: You will always be missing your parents’ home
Fact: A totally happy marital home can eventually provide more tranquility
Of course, both parties involved may cling to their parents at first. No doubt, the apron-strings need some time in order to get severed, but if both partners finally succeed in becoming emotional pillars of strength for one another, there will certainly come a time when they would rather be together, during either good or bad times, than with their parents.
When mutual love and compassion become the foundation of a healthy marriage, both partners will join forces to take care of not just one another, but of one another’s families, when the need arises.